Suppose for a moment that we were to view our lives as a book.

Filled with chapters, taking us on different adventures, living in different places, having different relationships and overcoming different challenges.

Then let’s consider the book of women’s lives. We’re all familiar with the concepts of the Maiden, the Mother and the Crone.

As much as I revere the divine goddess, the only stage of the triple trinity I ever identified with was the Maiden.

In fact, I think I got stuck in the Maiden phase, because I did not intend to become a mother, and being a crone, well, I guess I just didn’t resonate with that word either.

A word I have always resonated with was sage. In fact, I’ve wanted to be considered a sage most of my life.

I am going to propose a new paradigm to this perhaps outdated archetype and present new four stages of women’s lives. I also think, these aren’t necessarily linear.

Like a book, sometimes we like one chapter so much, we go back and read it again.

Sometimes, we don’t like the chapter at all, skipping through it as fast as possible, and never returning.

Each chapter is a life stage, but it is also a mode of being depending on your current life circumstances.

1. The Spirit

When we are young, we believe in magic and we are encouraged to do so.

Fairytales, imaginary friends, unicorns, magic powers, and paranormal realities are absolutely par for the course and a natural part of childhood.

I think we were closer then, than we ever are again, to our own intuition, our own spirit, and the spirits of the world around us.

2. The Source

As we grow up into young women, we are discouraged from imagination, anything that is not concrete, that can be proven, that is endorsed, that is allowed.

We realize that women do in fact have very special powers. One, but not the entirety of which, is that they can bring spirits from the spirit world into the physical world.

This is truly a magic power.

But this chapter is so much more than that, especially for those that cannot or do not intend to bring children into the world. They may, however, still be a source.

The Source is a period of creation, developing our identities, molding our lives and learning skills that allow us to create and contribute to the world.

It is inception in its truest sense.

The beginnings of all greatness.

3. The Seeker

As we pass through the Source chapter, if we are lucky, and listen, we enter a new chapter, which is not part of the three-phase goddess trinity. It is a chapter I call The Seeker.

This the chapter one enters when they hear the call to completely change the direction their life has been headed in thus far.

Women in this stage are experiencing major catastrophic life shifts.

This can be brought on my experiencing death, trauma, illness, or simply the inexplicable emotional, physical and mental transformation of before, during and after menopause.

When you enter the seeker chapter, you are unstoppable in your quest for knowledge, you feel compelled by your heart’s mission and awakened in your soul by a new magic.

I think to truly understand this chapter, we have to re-imagine what magic really is.

Magic, in terms of the rabbit-in-the-hat, magician type is completely different from magick, which is essentially the aligning of oneself with natural forces to manifest an intention.

When we view magick in this way, it is very much a manner of mindfulness, consciousness, awareness, intuition and intention.

Seekers raise their consciousness to better perceive and participate in divine reality

Magick is the realm of the seeker, which is any woman who is embarking on a spiritual quest of awakening.

4. The Sage

The last chapter, and truly the one we should all be seeking, is the Sage.

The Sage is the wise one, but so much more than a crone.

She has transformed into a butterfly from her cocoon of love and loss.

She carries with her the jewels of knowledge she has earned and graciously bestows them on those who seek it.

It is enlightenment, humility and reflection.

We should all be looking forward to being the sage.

Dream Chapters of Women’s Lives

Each chapter of the Spirit, the Source, the Seeker and the Sage, can correspond to a certain age range.

But the chapters are also cyclical in nature and can happen at any stage of our lives.

 If you are an “old soul,” you may feel wise beyond your years and have Sage chapters in your life well before your grays come in.

If you are awakened in your 60’s, you may experience a new chapter of spirit, remembering your youthful connections.

You can be a seeker in your 30’s, a sage in your 40’s, a spirit in your 50’s.

I also believe that these chapters are represented in our dreams. Depending on which chapter you are in, your dream messages will be infused with those aspects.

I have so much more to write about this, but for now at least I have “birthed” my invention.

What chapter are you in? I’d love to hear it in the comments below.